“The function all expressions of contempt have in common is the defence against unwanted feelings.” – Alice Miller I read something the other day …
—- very thought-provoking. The content, but also that there is 200 likes.
It is a compelling argument, and very psycho analytical, to say that it all comes down to our parents. We could fix society and indeed democracy if we could just face and come to terms with the issues that are parents essentially instilled in us, whether intentionally, incidentally or otherwise.
As well, it is very interesting that there’s 200 likes for this post. Of course, it could just be that this guy has a lot of followers, but then as well it goes to support the idea that many people feel that there is some sort of individual that is themselves that own or otherwise is manifested by a psyche that is affected by developmental procedures that parents most directly are involved with. Yes, it is a very common psychological approach that began with at least Freud.
It’s a very common approach to understanding cause , but it doesn’t go very far into how we should deal with it. 
I think it is a deceivingly simple idea which pervades modern people in our society. The idea that “if we could just…” Then that confronting of issues would go along way into improving society.
As an example of the faulty reasoning behind, perhaps this post, but at least the books authors proposal: just because I might know what caused me to get a flat tire, doesn’t mean I know how to get back on the road. The cause of the flat tire doesn’t really help me to fix the tire. Such Knowledge could contribute to how I might go about fixing the tire, for example, pull out the nail. As well, it might inform me about what I should or should not do in the future to avoid getting a flat tire. Overall, though, knowing the cause of the problem doesn’t help me to find a solution to the problem.
It is interesting that such an anachronistic belief in individualism and secularism still pervade common knowledge today. As if psychology holds all the marbles for what goes on with the individual, and as if mental health can only be addressed by psychology.
It indicates a sort of sad myopia that most people who consider themselves intelligent are involved with.
For, all one would have to do is instead of reading the pop-psychology, step over and actually use their brains a little bit and read some philosophy and critical theory. There is well-known evidence in academia and in intellectual sectors that do not see psychology as a domain which pervades over all other domains are, and evidence which suggests that it is not merely the parents which influence thebchildren in these particular ways, rather, it is Society. which is affecting parents which then move to affect children.
A more effective kind of analysis actually takes a little bit more responsibility than saying “we need to confront” or “if we could just” type of thinking. It is this responsibility that begins to see systemic oppression at work, and popular psychology indeed –in a way evidenced by such popularity of this kind of approach to what is going on with the individual –supporting the systemic oppression.
Along these lines then we could even say “if we could just” get people to look at what’s actually occurring, instead of just gobbling up and consuming tastefully concocted psychological spreads on their organic wheat bread and grass raised cows.
Lol. Sorry, my attitude is showing. 😝
For sure, we need to approach people where they’re at and begin to ask them to ponder and reflect and to think about things in the way that they are able to think about things.
However, I think that it is therapeutically irresponsible to allow those people to stay there as if that small reflection is all that needs to be done in order to change themselves or even approach to be able to changing our country or the world.
Of course we need to start with popular psychology. But it is just catering to ignorance to let people think that that is the whole solution.
What does it mean to start within oneself?
Why do we need to confront anything there?
It may well be that all we need to do is deal with what is actually occurring.
Now. 

Yes; unconditional love for our children, but then how do we instill discipline in them without also imposing trauma?
How do I even begin to approach my issues while I’m simultaneously attempting to raise a child and insulate them from those issues?
There is reason to believe that even as I might be confronting my issues that are inside of me, I am further implementing a trauma that is occurring within me in confronting those issues, that’s aggravating the problem all together under the intention of love.
What are we to do? 
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I think it could be that I’m just jealous that I can’t get 200 likes on any post 👽.
I ponder what I would need to change in order to get more than 60 likes. I’m sure some of it is just the content; most people don’t really enjoy thinking too much about things. And my blog is really about the reader confronting oneself. My posts are just an occasion, they are just an instrument of reflection.
So really what I’m pondering is how could I maintain the integrity of such a venture and reach proportionally more people such that I would get 200 likes ?
The Veritable Counsel 
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