As a almost somewhat close to be a practicing counselor/therapist, I am looking at the world and all sorts of things in a slightly different light. Because I’m relatively new at this kind of view, I still have not formulated exactly what constitutes my shift.
Nevertheless, at times somewhat frequently now I notice things I wouldn’t have noticed before. If you take a layer to the link that I just gave — it is a nice little therapeutic chart, I suppose, about little things we can do therapeutically when we are finding ourselves in a particular state of mind.
Now, as a counselor, I have to come to terms with mental health and particularly how I conceive of suffering; which is to say, my bases and effectiveness of being a counselor has much to do with how I conceive “suffering”, what the root of suffering is.
At face value this might seem not a very large task. But when you start thinking about how you’re going to go about helping someone with a particular issue, all of a sudden this simple idea becomes very involved.
Without going into all the nuts and bolts or the philosophical speculations, thoughts upon suffering turned in my mind upon this person’s post above. Yeah keep in mind I do not mean to negate or say that anything is wrong about it.
Click on the link and take a look at it.
Now, one of the other tenets of being a counselor is my view that nothing is wrong with anyone. Everyone is manifested and behaves entirely normally given the conditions of their existence. So if I take this as, again, not very thought out, then it’s really easy to look at that chart and go oh those are nice little things to do: when I’m feeling sad allow myself 20 minutes to feel sad. When I’m feeling lonely I can call someone and talk to them. Yes; those things are good, sometimes in our lives we don’t think about the simple solutions for these little problems.
But that’s really what struck me about it; it’s like a quaint little chart for people who really don’t have any problems in their lives and yet it is from a therapist. Which then goes to another tenant of being a counselor, namely, that everyone should have a therapist and it doesn’t mean you’re screwed up.
And yet, without taking it too far into the philosophical realm, there are people who definitely feel like somethings wrong, and then there’s another level of people who definitely something is wrong.
So this post got me reflecting upon myself and I realized that those little aphorisms never helped me. Lol. At least when I had a more severe issue. I have lead a pretty insane life, very atypical probably to what we consider in a very general sense a normal life. And I’m sure this is why I am becoming a counselor finally; through my life I never saw myself as having really any issues. But now that I’m sober, and I’ve been sober for a long time, I’m finally realizing that when I actually open my eyes to how people behave, I am a little crazy. Lol. But moreso, people who think they are fine are actually mostly insane. 🧐
So in reflecting on this post still, I just realized that there must be like regular people who just have regular kind of ups and downs of daily life who like these little pick me up sayings that make them feel good or if they’re having a bad day then they can remember one of these things and then their day can be better. That’s totally good, it’s all good.
But then there is people who are actually suffering from a significant problem that these kind of quaint aphorisms just don’t handle. But it is not really correct to say “significant problem” Becuase the “problem” is actually a normal manner of handling the specific situation in which the client finds itself.
to say “not for people who have actual problems” just reifies that therapy is for screwed up people.
I think different approaches work for different people.
Anyways. Just some light thinking in this post.